When mediating we often have clients whose decisions are based on anger. They want more because they are angry or want to punish their spouse. They feel betrayed. Guilt is the flip side of anger in mediation. In these cases the party wants less. In these cases the mediator can ask the party will he or she feel the same later when he or she no longer feels guilty. If the party is honest with himself or herself, the party will probably say he or she will not feel the same. Mediators can also point out that review counsel will probably not agree with the party and will send them back to mediation. It is better to deal with it now than doing it all again later. Anger is harder to deal with. Often time is the only way to deal with anger. If an angry person was asked if they will feel the same later, he or she might say no even though the person will probably feel better.
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