I am sure you have often felt as I have that the return trip always feels shorter than the original trip. A Washington Post article by Ana Swanson suggests the science behind the feeling. See the article by clicking on Link
“She says that humans are not good at measuring time. Psychologists have several theories on why this effect happens. They say one explanation has to do with paying attention to time itself. When you pay more attention to time passing, time seems to take forever. This is the old saying, “ A watched pot does not boil.” Another explanation is familiarity. On the way there, you don’t know the route; on the way back you recognize landmarks and other familiar sites, which makes the trip seem to go faster.” Another explanation she sites is that people are often optimistic on their outbound journey which makes the trip seem to take longer. On the way back, they revise their expectations.”
So what does this all have to do with divorce and mediation. Divorce is a journey. The mediator is the guide. There is a rhythm to divorce. Sometimes it seems fast and sometimes it feels slow. The mediator has gone thru the divorce process many times and it may seem rapid to the mediator. The couple has not usually gone thru divorce and the process may seem very long. The couple is watching their pot boil and the process seems longer. The couple is not optimistic and the process may seem longer. The mediator may be more optimistic and the process seems faster. On the other hand the couple is going thru their everyday lives which may seem rapid to them. The mediator is not going thru their everyday lives and the process may seem slow. Which ever is happening the mediator must be aware of the rhythm and work with it.
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If you have been reading my blogs you know I love Google. I have set up Google Alerts for a variety of topics including Divorce Mediation.
Every day, I get my Google Alert – Daily Digest of stories about Divorce Mediation. Recently, some of these have included the following:
Oprah’s ‘Greenleaf’ Star Merle Dandridge Files for Divorce
Oprah’s ‘Greenleaf’ Star Merle Dandridge Files for Divorce … and Dandridge says they are working out spousal support issues through mediation.
Australia’s longest divorce ends after 15 years with lawyers biggest winners
AUSTRALIA’s longest-running divorce battle has ended after a 15-year … filed in 2003 and settled in March this year after court-ordered mediation.
The plan you never want to make: How to prepare for a divorce
You might ask, “Who would ever plan for a divorce?” While no one plans to divorce, the fact is that the divorce rate in the United States is about 50%, …
All the posts are very interesting and help me keep up with the world of Divorce Mediation.
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The Tesla Model 3 has regenerative braking. When you take your foot off the accelerator, regenerative braking slows down the Model 3 and feeds any surplus energy back to the battery. By anticipating your stops and reducing or removing pressure from the accelerator pedal to slow down, you can take advantage of regenerative braking to increase driving range. This is no substitute for regular braking when needed for safety.
Wouldn’t this be great for marriages. If you slow down you could regenerate the marriage putting more energy into the marriage and increasing the length of the marriage You can always hit the brakes if need be and end the marriage. Hopefully, with mediation!
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Recently I have been doing the mini crossword puzzle in the New York Times. There is a method to solving crossword puzzles.
Don’t guess. Complete the words you are sure of first and build from there. Watch for plurals, tense, and same parts of speech. Watch for abbreviations examples, acronyms, and short sentences. Think outside the box. Mediating requires many of the same techniques. Mediation especially requires thinking outside the box and creative solutions.
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“The Scientific Method is the overall process of making conjectures (hypotheses), deriving predictions from them as logical consequences, and then carrying out experiments based on those predictions to determine whether the original conjecture was correct. There are difficulties in a formulaic statement of method, however. Though the scientific method is often presented as a fixed sequence of steps, these actions are better considered as general principles. Not all steps take place in every scientific inquiry (nor to the same degree), and they are not always done in the same order. As noted by scientist and philosopher William Whewell (1794–1866), ‘invention, sagacity, [and] genius’ are required at every step.” Wikipedia, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scientific_method#Process. The Scientific Method can be applied to resolving divorce cases as well. In mediation we often make a hypotheses about how to settle an issue. We derive predicitions from the the logical consequences of the hypotheses. We advise the clients in most cases they experiment with the solution to verify that the hypothesis was correct.
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