I am sure you have often felt as I have that the return trip always feels shorter than the original trip. A Washington Post article by Ana Swanson suggests the science behind the feeling. See the article by clicking on Link
“She says that humans are not good at measuring time. Psychologists have several theories on why this effect happens. They say one explanation has to do with paying attention to time itself. When you pay more attention to time passing, time seems to take forever. This is the old saying, “ A watched pot does not boil.” Another explanation is familiarity. On the way there, you don’t know the route; on the way back you recognize landmarks and other familiar sites, which makes the trip seem to go faster.” Another explanation she sites is that people are often optimistic on their outbound journey which makes the trip seem to take longer. On the way back, they revise their expectations.”
So what does this all have to do with divorce and mediation. Divorce is a journey. The mediator is the guide. There is a rhythm to divorce. Sometimes it seems fast and sometimes it feels slow. The mediator has gone thru the divorce process many times and it may seem rapid to the mediator. The couple has not usually gone thru divorce and the process may seem very long. The couple is watching their pot boil and the process seems longer. The couple is not optimistic and the process may seem longer. The mediator may be more optimistic and the process seems faster. On the other hand the couple is going thru their everyday lives which may seem rapid to them. The mediator is not going thru their everyday lives and the process may seem slow. Which ever is happening the mediator must be aware of the rhythm and work with it.
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