One of my favorite Yiddish folk tales is about a poor man lives in an overcrowded house and the noise and activity is driving him crazy. He seeks out advice from the local rabbi. The rabbi, tells him to bring in the barn animals to his house, which turns the place into utter chaos. He complains to the rabbi who then tells him to remove the animals one by one. When the farmer finally removes all the animals from the house he declares everything to finally be peaceful. It is now exactly as it was when he started out. When we mediate we don’t tell couples do bring farm animals into the house but we do future scenarios with couples so they can tell what life will be like when they are divorced. They discover that the grass is not always greener. Rarely do they not get divorced but at least they know what they are getting into.